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And now, it's time to depart... [Jul. 29th, 2010|12:53 am]
Renegade Necrophile Princess
[Current Location |United States, Minnesota, Minneapolis]
[Current Mood |anxiousanxious]
[Current Music |The crickets outside.]

 A friend said to me, the other day: "I wish you lived close enough for me to take you for granted.." 

While the lady that was pumping gas across from us gushed distractedly about how cute such a term was, I found myself concerned that she might think that he was hitting on me... and the true meaning of what he meant kind of escaped me in that moment.

Now as I sit awake, realizing that my flight leaves in 10 hours and 16 minutes, I've kind of had time to stew on that meaning and understand what I should have taken out of it.

This past month has kind of been an eye opener. In so many ways that I could write novels about it. I've never felt such emotional chaos in my life as this mixture of happiness, relaxation, anger, despair, stress, relief, and longing. Wrapped up into 30 short days; my moods have been twisting so wildly that I think, perhaps, I know what it is to be Bipolar. Or at least something close.

Nothing makes you feel like a total and complete asshole.. than moving away from your friends and family. I can't count on my fingers the number of times my mother has broken down into tears, sobbing over my inevitable departure... speaking as though I might be dying instead of just going home.

I feel almost.. betrayed in the sense of my friends, concerning the ways they treat me: Like it's a never-ending birthday that I endure; receiving the utmost respect, and reverement; seeing the most impressive fronts, and having them 'making the best of it while you're here'.

It's not that I don't enjoy the attention, mind you; but I guess I kinda feel like I want to live close enough to be taken for granted. I don't want to think people feel obligated to treat me any differently, just because they won't see me, again. I don't like the reminders of those important friendships that I have left behind.

I feel confidant that the majority of them will stand the tests of time; but also.. I hate that disturbing feeling of wanting to pick up the phone and call someone over to watch TV, and then remembering that they don't live a block away from me, because I told Minnesota to get up and go fuck itself.

I don't do well with Farewells and Good Byes. I always get awkward during them, and would rather just get the departure over with, rather than sit and consider how sad I'll be when I miss someone.

On the plus side: I adore my parents, but living here with them for a month has almost been hell. In that way, I really wish I lived close enough to be taken for granted.. because then I wouldn't have to make these long trips out here like this. To sit and listen to my mother cry because she misses me, and wrongly places her concept of happiness, and her sense of well being on my physically being there.

That.. is just something that is impossible to live up to. It makes it easier to leave, however.
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[User Picture]From: maekern
2010-07-29 06:04 am (UTC)
If it helps, we did the best we could to take you for granted. I kind of liked playing GW with Andrea while you WoWed at the next desk, with a bit of idle chatter.
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[User Picture]From: pipkin
2010-07-29 06:08 am (UTC)
I really did enjoy that time spent with you guys.. <3
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[User Picture]From: kint
2010-07-29 12:57 pm (UTC)
I believe I can generally relate. Especially the past few years, I've really missed being closer to home and friends, both MN and IA. I can't really speak for my friends, but I know it's been rough on my mom at times, too.
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[User Picture]From: pipkin
2010-07-29 01:36 pm (UTC)
Quit being such a faggot, L. (I had a good time, too. :) )
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[User Picture]From: waster60268
2010-07-29 04:17 pm (UTC)
..why don't parents understand that the main function of children is to eventually LEAVE them? seriously. if there were some kind of "this is what you're getting yourself into" pamphlet, this information would need to appear on the very first page..
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[User Picture]From: buggrit_1979
2010-07-29 05:40 pm (UTC)
The thing is, Pipkin is the only sane and rational person in that family. I can completely see why having your anchor of rationality with you for a month, and then having it taken away again, would be upsetting.

That said, they're all nuts and I'm happy for Annie that she gets to go home (although of course I'm not glad she's gone).
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[User Picture]From: kellic
2010-07-29 10:58 pm (UTC)
Wait?!? What? You were in the cities? Fuck.
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[User Picture]From: invader_tak_1
2010-07-30 12:31 am (UTC)
If it helps at all, I always treat time I spend with you as special now as I did when you lived here. Same thing I did when I went up there too.
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[User Picture]From: plaidalicious
2010-07-31 08:53 pm (UTC)
If it helps any, I totally take you for granted, and will once more when you're back here in the North.

I don't think our friendship will change if you move away to be with Jason...again.
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[User Picture]From: ladyzsazelle
2010-08-01 06:26 am (UTC)
I'm glad I got to see you briefly while you were here, & I'm sorry work made me unavailable so much. I hope you're doing what's best for you & everyone else can just DEAL because it's your life!
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